The Top Ten Things that Block the Law of Attraction

I was first introduced to the Law of Attraction (LOA) before I ever had children, back around 1993-94. I have studied it consistently since then, with little positive results until recently. You would think I would have given up on it in that time, but one thing kept me going - I could at LEAST tell that I was attracting the things I didn’t want - so I could tell that the LOA was working! Sad but true .

I knew I had some deep-seated limiting beliefs that simply wouldn’t go away. But I had the hardest time identifying them and transforming them. When I got my NLP Certification, I blasted out most of them, and then when I reworked my values, and the impact on my ability to create what I want with the Law of Attraction was immediate - as in, within 36 hours I had a check in the mail headed my way.

So what are the things I have found to be the top obstacles I needed to remove in order to use the LOA for good things and not crappy things? Here they are:

1. Living life at effect
   8 out of 10 people believe that they aren’t responsible for the things they experience in life. I’m here to reaffirm that you are - even when it wholly appears that this isn’t your fault. If it’s in your life, you attracted it, period. And if you want it to change, you need to look to yourself first to do just that. Here’s an excerpt from Joe Vitale’s The Attractor Factor that discusses just how deep this goes…
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2. A belief that money wasn’t spiritual
   I thought this belief was a crock of crap in my head, but in my heart, I still felt divided on how wealth could fit into my spiritual path. I ironically found that I had made limiting decisions about money and spirituality even while on my path of personal growth. I found that even though they served me 10 years ago, they weren’t serving me today.So all of the limits I was placing upon myself didn’t necessarily originate from my childhood. Some I had made just a few years ago.
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3. Getting stuck on “Win-Win”
   Every time good things happened to me, I felt this deep urge to share it with everyone around me. Now don’t get me wrong, I am all about contribution. But what I mean specifically is that I couldn’t hold onto any money or wealth for myself. I didn’t feel like I could enjoy the fruits of my success, because I wanted everyone around me to be at the same level as I was.The lesson here is that everyone around me stayed at the same level of success for a very long time. Nobody moved forward, because I was robbing them of their own opportunities for growth. And nobody was moving forward because I was so focused on keeping an even playing field. Once I accepted my own success and was willing to “break out from the pack”, the strangest thing happened - my family and close friends started doing better financially too. It took a willingness to become a leader to take my (and others’!) income to the next level.
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4. Staying stuck in negative emotions
   In an earlier post I discussed how I was unable to control some of my negative emotions - specifically, anger. I totally agree with Dr. Joseph Dispenza when he discusses the definition of an addiction in What the Bleep Do We Know? And addiction anything we do that we can’t control.I was addicted to anger, and even went through a bit of withdrawal when I made the decision to eradicate it from my mind. This is one of the things that NLP and Time Line Therapy are the best at - and had I had my certifications earlier, I would have been able to move myself out of anger much more easily and efficiently than I did back then!
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5. A belief that there is never enough
   I remember when I was in college and struggling with an eating disorder. I had a very sad realization one day that if I were to go out and eat as much food as I wanted, that there would not be enough food on this planet for me to consume. It sounds silly, but I truly felt like there could never be enough food to satisfy my desires.I felt similar about money - that I could be wealthier than Bill Gates and still not have enough money for all that I wanted. Instead of focusing on what I wanted and didn’t have, I shifted to focusing on being grateful for what I had already. It wasn’t easy - but I did eventually find that “enough” is however I choose to define it.
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6. Asking crappy questions
   Why isn’t the Law of Attraction working for me?
   Why can’t I get this right?
   What’s wrong with me?
   Why am I so messed up?I can admit to asking these crappy questions of myself in the past. And what did I get from it? Crappy answers. Be highly conscious of the questions you ask yourself, and rephrase them if the answers you are getting aren’t making you feel great.
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7. Wanting something for nothing
   I think that a lot of people watch The Secret and get the idea that they can just sit in their comfy chair and money will fall from the heavens. Unfortunately, it’s just not how it works. Even all of the people who are speaking in The Secret are still working - they all have their own businesses, do speaking engagements, and write books to help spread the knowledge they have.Don’t let a misunderstanding of the Law of Attraction mask something that will truly get in your way :: laziness or a fear of hard work. I’m not saying that you HAVE to work hard to enjoy abundance. I’m saying that if you are actively avoiding work, you’ve missed the point. Your true calling will be work you enjoy - massively.
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8. Pushing away part of yourself
   I know just how hard it is to deal with parts of yourself that resist using the LOA to attract good into our lives. I used to be the queen of self-sabotage.These parts of ourselves are just that - parts of ourselves. We can’t get rid of them just like we can’t get rid of our family members - they are here to stay. So instead of pushing them away or trying to ‘get rid’ of them - we must find ways to listen to them. Each part of you needs to be heard, and has something to say. And if you can get into a dialoge with that part of yourself, you may find right now that once you get past the negativity, there is something truly of value to be found in that part of you.
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9. Judging circumstances or conditions
   I had a big ah-ha even fairly recently. I was coaching someone who was having a hard time with #5 - Not Enough. Later that day, I allowed myself to get triggered into thinking the same way for a little while. What I remembered was that the universe is ALWAYS working on my behalf and for my highest good no matter what - so I promptly put the not enough idea out of my mind, even though I had no outside evidence to convince me otherwise.Had I judged the situation, I could have easily thought that just because the idea came up, it must mean something real. It doesn’t. Instead, I kept my mind focused on what I knew to be true - that I can trust the universe and myself to continuously create the life I want. And sure enough, later that day my husband made the biggest commission of his professional career.
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10. A feeling of unworthiness
    When I didn’t feel worthy, I had a very difficult time staying focused on what I wanted. My thoughts consistently were drawn to what I didn’t want - and thus continued to create what I didn’t want. And I didn’t need to just feel unworthy of money - it went deeper than that, as I felt unworthy of love, too.To be honest, this one tends to be the root of the rest of the blocks. So as long as you are working consistently on improving your self-worth, you will automatically be improving your results with the Law of Attraction.