The Dreams Dilemma of the Parent and Spouse
December 14, 2006
I have a little personal dream to share with you. I want to be a motivational speaker. My dream can be both a blessing and a curse, actually; something which became much clearer to me last night as I was chatting with a group of close friends.
I was discussing my tendency to over-commit myself and keep myself super-busy. In the past, I wondered if I did this because I had lingering worries about “not being enough”. But as we chatted I realized it’s not that at all - it’s because my dreams are SO BIG.
They are HUGE, in fact. To dream of being in the same league as Tony Robbins, Oprah, Jack Canfield and Marianne Williamson is so big, in fact, that even I wonder if I will ever get there. But the dream is there, nonetheless, and I have spent 20 years of my life getting rid of my self-imposed limits to pursue my dreams. It would be easier if my dreams were a bit smaller, because then they wouldn’t be so intimidating.
But what kind of motivator would I be for you if I said, “No, dream smaller, so that you can be safer, more comfortable, and your dreams will be easy to attain”? So even though my dreams scare even me at times, they are MY dreams, and I WILL pursue them.
The whole point of dreams is that they are Big - and my life is crazy busy because there is SO much to do to pursue this dream of mine.
So why do I want to do this? Besides all of the reasons I have talked about before, I have one more big reason.
Because I know too many people who AREN’T pursuing their own dreams.
They are moms who have put their dreams away to raise their children.
They are fathers who have postponed their dreams to provide for their families.
They are wives who have dimmed their inner light so as to not intimidate their husbands.
They are husbands who want to grow but don’t want to leave their wives behind.
EVERY DAY I encounter people with this dream dilemma. They have let go of their dreams in order to keep up with life. I used to be the same way. My dreams may be big, but if I don’t go for them, I will live the rest of my life in regret. I refuse to do that.
Another reason I started this blog is to bring you with me. I’m pursuing my dreams. My really, really big dreams that I may or may not make happen. It will get messy along the way. I may flounder. I will fail at times.
And I will also succeed at times. And I will also inspire. And no matter what, I will not regret how I have lived my life. I started this blog so that you, too, can find a little of yourself in me. I doubt myself sometimes. I wonder if I am getting anywhere sometimes. And I also get some big wins along the way. And maybe someday I will achieve this dream of mine to positively impact the lives of millions.
Will you choose to listen to your heart and live the life you were born to live?
What are your dreams?
Will you pursue them with me? 
Sobriety was Only the Start of our Marriage Problems
December 5, 2006
I remember thinking that if my husband just got sober, that everything would be ok. I know that’s why I stuck around for much longer than I normally would have. I kept giving him chance after chance to finally get it together.
But when I put my foot down for the last time, I wasn’t really prepared for the unravelling of our marraige - and the unravelling of my husband as well:
From my old journal:
He is so hurt and so lost. I love him so much and I feel so helpless watching him spiral out of control. He keeps looking to me to make him want to change – yet if he changes for me he will never address the internal challenges that make him drink in the first place. I have been building up my strength for nearly 2 years to get to this point.
But to be honest this just isn’t what I expected. [Read more]
Free Accountability Partner for You!
December 1, 2006
Need an accountability partner? Well, how about a nag partner? Well, I can’t help you personally, but HassleMe sure can!
Not eating enough fruit? Forgot to feed the fish again? Need to read more self help books?!
HassleMe says, “Tell us what to hassle you about, and we’ll nag you via email at semi-unpredictable intervals. “
Who needs a coach when you can get nagged for free? *wink*